Dating the healthy way
Having healthy boundaries means “knowing and understanding what your limits are,” Dr. Below, she offers insight into building better boundaries and maintaining them.1. You can’t set good boundaries if you’re unsure of where you stand.
Many believe that they should be able to cope with a situation or say yes because they’re a good daughter or son, even though they “feel drained or taken advantage of.” We might wonder if we even deserve to have boundaries in the first place.
If you notice yourself slipping and not sustaining your boundaries, Gionta suggested asking yourself: What’s changed?
Consider “What I am doing or [what is] the other person doing? How you were raised along with your role in your family can become additional obstacles in setting and preserving boundaries.
Boundaries are essential to healthy relationships and, really, a healthy life. Unfortunately, it’s a skill that many of us don’t learn, according to psychologist and coach Dana Gionta, Ph. We might pick up pointers here and there from experience or through watching others.
But for many of us, boundary-building is a relatively new concept and a challenging one.